Grief Song Ceremony in EUgene

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SAturday, november 11TH
10:30 Am to 6:30 pm

Unity of the Valley
3912 Dillard Rd
Eugene OR 97405

or send a check to:
Cascadia Quest, P.O. Box 50594 Eugene, OR 97405

               

There is so much to grieve! Loss of a loved one or job, pain and illness, national and global crises, mass shootings, environmental devastation, anxiety producing presidential pronouncements…all of these and more affect us physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Places to be listened to deeply and compassionately are uncommon. Places to express the visceral sensations of grief in a safe, well-held communal context are even more rare.

The Grief Song Ceremony is just such a space. It is a day long, well facilitated ceremony to cleanse grief and allow joy, aliveness, clarity and strength to emerge. In this way we become ready to actively create a more sane, sustainable, and healthy world.

The Grief Song Ceremony is based on traditional patterns of ceremonial grieving while weaving in the songs (made on the spot) of our own griefs. We hope you will join song elder Laurence Cole and Rob Miller for this beautiful event. The Grief Song Ceremony is now 8 hours long and includes a lengthy open grieving session.


About Grief

What is Grief? We define it quite broadly as the nexus of emotions, pains, woundings, traumas and more from our present, past and even future events. Griefs can be personal, communal or global, existential or philosophical, emotional, physical or spiritual. They can be short-term, chronic, and even ancestral. Causes of grief include death of a loved one, accident or injury to self or others, loss of a job, divorce or separation, being the victim or perpetrator of violence, sadness about the environment, fears about the current socio-political situation, and feelings about the state of the world.

Grief affects us in as many ways as there are humans on the earth. Some common experiences are depression, anxiety, low self-worth, mental illness, emotional distress, spritual crisis, difficulty sleeping, poor appetite or digestion, heart disease, high blood pressure, cancer, obesity, relationship difficulties, uncontrollable anger, violence, war, early death, even genocide. Unexpressed grief can gnaw away at our insides and shorten our lives.

In the past and even today, traditional cultures around the world have known that people need safe, effective places to let go of their grief. Some Native American tribes would dig a hole, cry and scream their grief into it, then bury it. Catharsis at South African funeral processions is well known. Jews to this day have a practice of "sitting shiva" - visiting the bereaved for a week after a death - where expressions of grief are welcomed and expected. The Dagara people of Burkina Faso in West Africa have three-to-four day long, continuous, village-wide Grief Rituals. Traditional cultures know that the health and happiness of the community is based on the health and happiness of each person. Grief must be expressed for the community's well-being.

The Grief Song Ceremony is our offering of a contemporary, bioregionally appropriate grieving space. It is based on traditional patterns of ceremonial grieving while weaving songs (created on the spot) of our own griefs. Though a unique creation, it is strongly influenced by the teachings of Sobonfu Somé, a pioneer in bringing African healing ritual to the Western World. Through the medium of facilitated song creation, collective singing, compassionate witness, and open, cathartic grieving time, the Grief Song Ceremony allows for the safe, healthy expression and releasing of grief. Common results are feelings of ease, lightness, relief, empowerment and smiles. We hope you'll join us at the next Grief Song Ceremony.

To inquire about hosting a Grief Song Ceremony, contact Rob Miller at 458-201-2868 or circles.cascadia@gmail.com